Ugh!

[Stuck911]

So my whole life I've been on diets and a ton of dance classes. Every other day my grandma has something to say abotu my weight . How I should lose more weight.... I weight 120 and I'm 5'3.. I tihnk I'm fine. But with her sayign stuff like that everyday I feel fat... I stop eating or eat less, cause I hate when she says that stuff. My friends and my boyfriend are starting to worry about me.. I'm scared and I dont know what to do :'( .....

[sbloemeke]

Have you confronted your grandmother on this yet? If not, it may be the best path to take. She may think she is providing you with encoragement, but if you let her know that it is hurting your self-esteem and is making you deppressive, she may reconsider telling it to you. Try to ask it calmly and plainly first, and preferably in a time when she has not recently called your overweight. This way it will seem less spur of the moment and more of something which has been bothering you for a much longer time.

However, if you are happy with the way you look, I do not advise trying to change that. If it is not broke, do not try to fix it. It is my personal philosophy that if something pleases you now, and will not have long term consequences (IE: Mass murder will result in you going to jail), then you should not try to do anything besides that. So, I advise you to keep on eating what you normally eat, and do the same amount of dance classes as you want.

-Steven

[Nikki]

ignore her? you know it's not true what she's saying, so stop listening to that.

[dna13]

As the previous posts you should either ignore her or talk to her, and tell her how her comments make you fell. Depends what type of person she is.... 120 for 5' 3" is definitely not fat. I'm 140 for 5' 6" but most of us on this forum are still growing, so we shouldn't worry about anything like that.



~~~Dana~~~