How to support a Transgender friend

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How to support a Transgender friend

Post by careyjonz95 » Fri Dec 26, 2008 7:59 pm

not transsexual...transgendered

as in

someone who is wishing, hoping, or feeling more comfortable being the opposite sex



i just want to know how to support her...(him?)
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Re: How to support a Transgender friend

Post by careyjonz95 » Sat Dec 27, 2008 2:30 am

almost 10 veiws and no replys yet???
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INTOXICATION...


the steps she takes,

the blinks he does in a minute,

...BY NUMBERS





[LEFT]I know how it feels to hurt,

and your only comfort to be a piece of steel...

when did it all come crashing down?

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Re: How to support a Transgender friend

Post by Barbies are Evil » Sat Dec 27, 2008 3:26 am

I would have replied, but I really don't know.......I guess the most important part of a friendship is accepting the person who who they are, and respecting their feelings........if you have both of those, then i'd say your doing your job as a friend :)
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Re: How to support a Transgender friend

Post by careyjonz95 » Sat Dec 27, 2008 3:35 am

yeah i guess

but she (he?) is already suffering from diagnosed depression,

so can you guess what she(he?) thinks of her(him?)self???
[CENTER]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pjI86MX2-dU



INTOXICATION...


the steps she takes,

the blinks he does in a minute,

...BY NUMBERS





[LEFT]I know how it feels to hurt,

and your only comfort to be a piece of steel...

when did it all come crashing down?

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Re: How to support a Transgender friend

Post by Barbies are Evil » Sat Dec 27, 2008 3:16 pm

does your friend see a doctor? (it might be easier if you just say "my friend")
TJ[10:13 PM]: no not really..... it's all so.... like wow..... screw steps, you took a fuckin jet pack and strapped it on yourself and rocketed your way forward (thats my big bro)







And I'm going to extremes



Tomorrow I will change



And today won't mean a thing



I'm a bitch, I'm a tease



I'm a goddess on my knees



When you hurt, when you suffer



I'm your angel undercover



I've been numb, I'm revived



Can't say I'm not alive



You know I wouldn't want it any other way



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Re: How to support a Transgender friend

Post by careyjonz95 » Sat Dec 27, 2008 9:17 pm

my friend sees a shrink



and we live a couple states apart, so i cant give her (him?) hugs or anything...

=*[
[CENTER]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pjI86MX2-dU



INTOXICATION...


the steps she takes,

the blinks he does in a minute,

...BY NUMBERS





[LEFT]I know how it feels to hurt,

and your only comfort to be a piece of steel...

when did it all come crashing down?

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Re: How to support a Transgender friend

Post by Barbies are Evil » Sun Dec 28, 2008 12:54 am

I think the most important thing is your friend knows that you will always be there for them....won't judge.
TJ[10:13 PM]: no not really..... it's all so.... like wow..... screw steps, you took a fuckin jet pack and strapped it on yourself and rocketed your way forward (thats my big bro)







And I'm going to extremes



Tomorrow I will change



And today won't mean a thing



I'm a bitch, I'm a tease



I'm a goddess on my knees



When you hurt, when you suffer



I'm your angel undercover



I've been numb, I'm revived



Can't say I'm not alive



You know I wouldn't want it any other way



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Re: How to support a Transgender friend

Post by Miltwngal » Sun Dec 28, 2008 2:28 am

Its not a bad idea to ask your friend how they would feel most supported- ask what you can do to help them- you dont know what ze's gender preference is - start by asking that- Friend- I would like to support you in any way i can- i also dont know what gender you would like to be called, can you tell me- would you like to be he/she/ him/her etc... this will start a dialogue and open up communication



another thing that you could possibly do- join an online LGBTQ group- idk if you are in college.. but your LGBQ resource center would also be a great place for you to seek assistance as well



I hope this helps

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Re: How to support a Transgender friend

Post by careyjonz95 » Sun Dec 28, 2008 12:19 pm

no, i am in middle school...i'm also already in my GSA at school, because i am pansexual...i got some people there helping me out, so its ok...
[CENTER]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pjI86MX2-dU



INTOXICATION...


the steps she takes,

the blinks he does in a minute,

...BY NUMBERS





[LEFT]I know how it feels to hurt,

and your only comfort to be a piece of steel...

when did it all come crashing down?

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Re: How to support a Transgender friend

Post by Kit » Sun Dec 28, 2008 4:25 pm

the best way to support your friend is to tell him so. when he calls be willing to discuss whatever he needs to. most of the time, they arent looking for advice - they're just wanting someone to listen. that goes for most who are depressed. when the want advice they'll tell you. gook luck hun. :)
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Re: How to support a Transgender friend

Post by Summer08 » Sun Jan 25, 2009 10:12 pm

I think the most important thing for transgender friends is to make them feel accepted. This goes for any friend really who is going through something that makes them "different." Ask your friend what they prefer to be called. It is very important for transgender individuals to be referred to by their PREFERRED name and gender. If they are not out yet, be careful to keep their secret. But rather than guessing on the him/her issue, using their preferred pronoun would probably make them feel like you really understand. Let them know that you are there for them by actually being there- listening and supporting their feelings. I'm sure this is a confusing time for them as well. But I would like to commend you on your support of your friend. That is very mature of you. Take care :).

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Re: How to support a Transgender friend

Post by agentmodem » Tue Mar 17, 2009 8:08 pm

This is a great resource with a lot of information - including some recommended reading: http://www.gendercrash.com/101.shtml



I agree that you need to ask your friend how to be supportive and then stick to it. Just remember that just because you read up on something doesn't mean you know everything or your friend's exact situation. The best thing you can do is listen to your friend.

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