Falling For Your Best Friend

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Falling For Your Best Friend

Post by Paris In Flames » Mon Jan 03, 2005 4:46 am

Hey,



This is a part poll and part written answer question. I think that most people who are gay/bi realise it because they fall for their best friend (who is generally a member of the same sex as them). Do you think this is true?



I fell for my best friend when I first started realising I was attracted to girls. And fuck, she's like...so hot, lol. We're not best friends anymore, but we're still pretty close. I told her that I liked her a long time ago, but nothing came of it. Yet, she still supported my decision and it was her who really set the stage for the confidence level that I hold now regarding my sexuality.



Okay, AND, if you've fallen for your best friend - did anything come of it?



Oh - and a question for all of you straight people out there. Have you ever fallen for your best friend even though you're straight?



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Post by MattMan » Mon Jan 03, 2005 10:57 am

I always fall for my friends lol... it just seems like the logical thing to do sometimes. I mean, you're horny, and you know this person pretty well. Before you know it, you've fallen hard :P i'm talking about both guys and girls though lol

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Post by Jesykah ^_^ » Mon Jan 03, 2005 5:13 pm

I wouldn't really say she was my best friend, but she was a friend. She was my first girl experience...and she still is the only girl that I've done anything with. All we did was make out...and we talked about going out...but nothing ever happened.



And I've also fallen for one of my guy friends...who is in fact still my best friend :P . Nothing came of it though. Nothing ever will due to...reasons.



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Post by CausticTears » Mon Jan 03, 2005 7:23 pm

Well, I haven't fallen for any of my best friends. Yet, I did do some things with my best friend (before) but I hadn't fallen for her. I wonder if she ever fell for me. Hrm...
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Post by Toy Soldier » Mon Jan 03, 2005 7:25 pm

lol, I've fallen for quite a few people. Who were my best mates. lol. Nothing ever came out of it though, though out of the 3 girls, only Emma knows I fancy her!



With guys though, I have fallen in love with quite a few mates, you know, developed a crush. But I've only been out with 2 of them. Neil and Andrew. lol
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Post by Britt » Mon Jan 03, 2005 9:49 pm

umm yeah i have definately fallen for a best friend



7th grade i had a best friend....had a huge crush on her..told her..we dated for a few months..that was my first girlfriend..she broke my heart..lol



then 9th grade i had a new best friend...i definately fell for her...thought maybe she was bi..asked her...she said yes...so screwed around with her for ever then dated then everything got ruined and we broke up..and stopped being best friends..then we dated again and it just didnt work out



summer after 9th and through 10th grade i fell inlove with a girl and she became my best friend and she really is still a best friend of mine even though we don't talk anymore...which is probably due to the break up..which sucks...but when i email her i can still tell her everything i can't tell anyone else



right now...my best friend..i am totaly inlove with her...i want her more than anything in the world and care for her more than anything...i am willing to give up every other relationship i have with anyone else for her...truthfully...if she were to ever want to be with me...if need be..i would give up christianity...just cuz i love her so much...if i can't stay with my faith and let myself be in a gay reltionship then goodbye to the faith...omg i love her...



i killer hate falling for best friends..its probably the most anoying thing in the world...


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Post by SirPostAlot » Mon Jan 03, 2005 10:08 pm

nope...

all my best friends are females so im not attracted to them...haha...

well there are some guys that i talk to that i love but im not really their best friends



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Post by Saren » Mon Jan 03, 2005 11:55 pm

I have never fallen in love with any of my best friends. Unless it counts as them being your best friends even when going out, but other than that, I stick to "no."
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Post by alnieve » Wed Jan 05, 2005 12:26 am

I've been really good friends with this one guy since 1st grade...(how cute, I know. :P). And I'm currently falling for him. I mean, nothing's coming of it yet, obviously. Ah...It's a complicated situation when I've known this kid for nearly 10 years. Hmm....



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Post by l3rok3n » Wed Jan 05, 2005 2:55 pm

Yes, I have fallen for my best friend and something became of it but my best friend was a guy and I am a girl. When that happened I didn't really have any friends that were girls.
You called yesterday to basically say

That you care for me but that you're just not in love

Immediately I pretended to be feeling similarly

And led you to believe I was O.K.

To just walk away from the one thing

That's unyielding and sacred to me

Well I guess I'm trying to be nonchalant about it

And I'm going to extremes to prove I'm fine without you

But in reality I'm slowly losing my my mind

Underneath the guise of a smile gradually I'm dying inside

Friends ask me how I feel and I lie convincingly

'Cause I don't want to reveal the fact that I'm suffering

So I wear my disguise 'til I go home at night

And turn down all the lights and then break down and cry

So what do you do when somebody you're devoted to

Suddenly just stops loving you and it seems they haven't got a clue

Of the pain that rejection is putting you through

Do you cling to your pride and sing "I will survive"

Do you lash out and say "How dare you leave this way"

Do you hold on in vain as they just slip away

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Post by outplaced88 » Fri Jan 07, 2005 7:54 pm

I've fallin for my friend (not best friend never really have on of them)Amanda before. She was my first lesbian experience, but it was only because we were playing truth or Dare and we had to kiss. Nothin else happened :( . but that was when I first started questioning my sexuality.

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Post by Jess » Wed Jan 12, 2005 8:58 pm

i put "yes, but nothing came of it." because i have a crush on one of my best friends, but he's a guy and i'm a girl so that's in my "straight category" i suppose. whatever.

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Post by Rob » Sun Jul 16, 2006 3:06 pm

Well, yea I guess. But I consider them too young. Well either that, or they already have a boyfriend. I can ignore it pretty easily. I'm actually becoming more adept at it every day. I don't even see myself anymore having a relationship anytime soon to be honest. Not sure why. No drive, no need, no desire, wat-ever.



I would like to get laid though (that's a whole other story however). But he'll have to survive on his own for now. <3

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Post by Jaegermeister » Fri Jul 28, 2006 7:55 pm

Yeah, I always tend to fall for my best friends. Sigh. They're all straight though.
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Post by lyn4sho » Mon Jul 31, 2006 10:55 pm

've never really fallen for a best friend, I have become best friends with someone I have fallen for however, but that is entirely different.
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Post by Bleeding~Hero » Tue Aug 01, 2006 12:50 am

When I was in 5th grade, I fell madly in love with my best friend. It was how I pretty much discovered I was bi. After I figured it out, I never looked him in the eye again. Or called him.

He was a complete lady's man anyway.

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Post by Lostinhersong » Thu Aug 03, 2006 7:35 pm

Ahhh...Sadly I have fallen for my best friend. I would give anything for a chance with her, who I consider perfect, but I doubt I will ever get the chance, due to her being straighter than anyone I know, and always having a boyfriend...
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Post by Red » Fri Aug 11, 2006 11:40 pm

I fell in love with my best friend sophomore year.. and before that my best friend in middle school.

the one in highschool i found out is pretty much nonsexual... and loves purely for personality. and the other i found out was gay this year but would never go out with... as it would be too weird.. and he lives like an hour away

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Post by Paris In Flames » Sat Aug 12, 2006 3:08 am

I think it's ironic that I started this topic last year.

And now I've fallen for my best friend.

Again.

Even though I have a girlfriend.



It's pathetic.

My best friend and I fooled around about a month ago while we were drunk.

And I dream about it at night.

My poor girlfriend has no idea how in love I am with my best friend.

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Post by Fishhead » Sat Aug 12, 2006 3:14 am

I fell for my best friend.

It was cool for awhile.

Then she met a guy, fell in love with him and had a baby.

So I pretend I don't love her.

She knows though.

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