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Post by Anna_Banana » Sat Sep 24, 2005 1:48 am

lol oh alright...we all know im not a whore so it doesn't matter
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Post by Saren » Sat Sep 24, 2005 3:46 am

I would never EVER have one. Only because I'm a horribly emotional person. I mean seriously. I couldn't handle it. Just the way I've grown up and looked at things at the perspective that I have. I mean, there was this once where I was with this guy and we fooled a little bit, nothing big. But we weren't anything like boyfriend and girlfriend. Now I'm with someone that I know I can attach to. I would not do it. My emotional part on it? I may sound old fashioned but I wanna keep with a guy that I know I can grow with and have a child with. And I am with him now. Plus, our recent situation... which I will not go into. THAT I would love to do with him. Just not at this age.
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Post by Toy Soldier » Sat Sep 24, 2005 8:49 pm

I would actually consider having one if I was'nt in a relationship and if I was'nt like I am now. At one point I wanted to have a FWB because i just wanted to feel cared about and I thought it was a way of not getting my feelings hurt.



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Post by Anna_Banana » Sun Sep 25, 2005 12:22 am

^^ that's very true. you can end up losing a friend. you just have to be very careful how you go about have a FWB. if it ends horribly then your friendship is going to suffer from it. however, if you both decide that it needs to stop it wouldn't harm the relationship as much. FWB can be good and bad. which is why people are on different sides. good: no strings attatched, you don't have to worry about cheating, feelings usually aren't involved, and both or being pleased. bad: messes up friendship, makes you feel used, most of the time it ends horribly, feelings become involved, and many more things....



if you play it safe, feelings wouldn't get involved and there would really be no emotional pain. but sometimes you can't help that. I have had a FWB but it didn't work out, and it ended very painfully. i would never do it again. but to anyone who enjoys it, i'm happy for you, it's just not my thing.
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Post by Wheretogo » Wed Sep 28, 2005 6:19 pm

Friends with benfits is stupid, it complicates the friendship. When the benifits stops, most likely so will the friendship.
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Post by lyn4sho » Wed Sep 28, 2005 10:10 pm

I would never ever ever ever ever have a FwB. I am already devoted to my BF and couldn't hurt him like that, and I don't think they are very smart ideas......
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Post by & she painted on a x smile x » Wed Sep 28, 2005 10:55 pm

I kind of had one...we kissed here and there a couple times but nothing serious...we both wanted more to happen I think but things didn't work out. I think he got jealous when I hung out with other guys...he ended up getting a girlfriend and the last time we talked he said that he hoped I died...so yea...
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Post by Anna_Banana » Thu Sep 29, 2005 3:01 am

oh wow. hhmm..that kinda harsh. sounds like he got emotionally attachted to you for awhile
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Re: Fwb (friends With Benfits)

Post by kellykelly » Thu Sep 29, 2005 4:27 pm

friends with benefits suck, atleast to me. i dunno, after i broke up with my b/f i liked the idea of physical gratification with the emotional attachment, because i love being kissed and held and what not but i didn't want to go through being hurt again, but i couldn't stop emotions from getting intertwined and when i told him i liked him, he broke it off and never talked to me again. people say there's no emotions, but most of the time there are, and i think it's even harder to deal with knowing that yea you messed around with this person you liked but they never really liked they just liked messing around with you.. i dunno that's what i think.

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Post by LiArLiAr911 » Fri Sep 30, 2005 10:07 pm

Well lets see since then me and him have stoped having sex really STOPED BEING FRIENDS!!! he is now going out with one of the girls i go to school with i've lost a really good friend but o well fuck him!!!!!



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Post by Anna_Banana » Fri Sep 30, 2005 11:45 pm

lol...atleast you did get laid. i've lost a friend like that before. so, i really dont suggest it to anyone.
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Post by l3rok3n » Tue Oct 04, 2005 2:49 pm

I voted other because I have had a friend with benefits and I loved it and hated it. He was in love with me and I didn't want to date him. He was my best friend so it hurt to see him hurt.
You called yesterday to basically say

That you care for me but that you're just not in love

Immediately I pretended to be feeling similarly

And led you to believe I was O.K.

To just walk away from the one thing

That's unyielding and sacred to me

Well I guess I'm trying to be nonchalant about it

And I'm going to extremes to prove I'm fine without you

But in reality I'm slowly losing my my mind

Underneath the guise of a smile gradually I'm dying inside

Friends ask me how I feel and I lie convincingly

'Cause I don't want to reveal the fact that I'm suffering

So I wear my disguise 'til I go home at night

And turn down all the lights and then break down and cry

So what do you do when somebody you're devoted to

Suddenly just stops loving you and it seems they haven't got a clue

Of the pain that rejection is putting you through

Do you cling to your pride and sing "I will survive"

Do you lash out and say "How dare you leave this way"

Do you hold on in vain as they just slip away

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Re: Fwb (friends With Benfits)

Post by Anna_Banana » Sat Oct 08, 2005 4:16 am

it usually does end because someone starts having feelings for each other. in my opinion...it causes a lot of pain.
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Post by WhOaMi? » Sat Dec 09, 2006 3:49 pm

well...i have a fwb and he is not my first one....things were great but then he got a gf and things got really really complicated b/c i started to like him...but my relationship with my first fwb was amazing b/c it was purely pyhsical....so if you can jutst make it physical go for it!

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Post by SirPostAlot » Sun Dec 10, 2006 1:18 am

haha well FWB i am open for, but i don't have a high sex drive at all - so many its for making out and such...

haha, its quite pathetic my lack of sex drive ~ i mean i you know a couple times a week but the lust for sex might only occur once every three weeks :P haha



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Post by WhOaMi? » Sun Dec 10, 2006 1:51 am

that is sad jeff....i am up for it almost anytime....ha ha

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Post by Paris In Flames » Sun Dec 10, 2006 2:43 pm

mmm I have one.

I kinda really ahte it.

Because I kinda really want her to commit.
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Post by Kit » Sun Dec 10, 2006 3:56 pm

I don't approve of it at all. It's just another way to spread STDs/STIs around, people get emotionally hurt, some are already in a relationship and I think it's screwed up.
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Post by VittorioCole » Mon Dec 11, 2006 8:48 am

Have one, and love it.



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Re: Fwb (friends With Benfits)

Post by Quixotic » Wed Jan 10, 2007 10:45 pm

due to my own experiences with fwbs (and sadly there have been a few) I'd say no. I've learned my lesson. It just hurts too much. I wouldn't reccommend doing it again.

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