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Post by LiArLiAr911 » Sun Sep 18, 2005 12:22 pm

The reason I'm doing this is because I'm in a Fwb right now! and I'm starting to fall for him and he is starting to fall for me! and i'm so scared because I dont want to lose a BEST FRIEND!!!! I'm kinda starting to hate it but I love having sex with him...... The ? is, Are there any of you going through this?





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Post by daffodildreams » Sun Sep 18, 2005 1:15 pm

I think you've highlighted the problems of friends with benefits for yourself - one of you could end up falling for the other. I would never do this, in a million years. It has too much emotional risk to it, nevermind the problems if you were to get pregnant.

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Post by XTorn2PiecesLPX » Sun Sep 18, 2005 2:29 pm

I dunno, this subject is really touchy for me. I mean, fwb can get so complicated with the feelings and all this stuff. Sometimes i think its worth it sometimes i dont. I dunno, ive had one before, and it was alright. But then he got a girlfriend and told me that it couldnt happen anymore and i was fine with it. So that one didnt go to bad, but ive heard of horror stories of fwb. Just be careful!!!



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Post by turtbub » Sun Sep 18, 2005 2:32 pm

I would never have one. It gets so complicated, you know? It's hard for me not to get attached to people and I don't think I could ever have just a purely physical relationship with another person without falling for them and then getting hurt.



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Post by Sam » Sun Sep 18, 2005 2:40 pm

I can't say that I would never have one but if it happened (and I didn't have a boyfriend) I might do it.
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Post by Anna_Banana » Sun Sep 18, 2005 3:06 pm

hey sweetheart. i picked "other" because i have been in a fwb. ew both really cared for each other more than we meant to. we never ended up dating because neither of us said anything until it was too late. really...the question is...do you want a relationship with him? anytime that you are just having sex with someone, and basically acting like you're going out. you are going to end up falling for them. which is why fwb isnt one of the greatest ideas out there. but what you do is up to you. if you want to be with him in a relationship then let him know before its too late.
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Post by 5a5 » Sun Sep 18, 2005 10:45 pm

i've had one but i cant really say i loved or hated it, it was fine at the moment we had a good time, there was also drama involved in that we sorta both became jealous but idk it was more complicated than that, so it just depends on ur situation, sometimes it work out pretty well sometimes it gets crazy
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Post by CreepyKidLover » Mon Sep 19, 2005 8:01 pm

I fall into the Other*explain* category.. it wasn't actually decided that we were friends with benifits hell we aint even friends now. but i went a little far with a really nice guy, and if i had the chance to date him i wouldn't. see one night after playing cards for about 7 hours. he drove me home and we had been typing messages into my phone since my sister left about 9:45. that was only like 2 hours into the game of poker. well he was like "i need a bj(blowjob). will you give me one?" i was a little wierded out but then i realized that he meant after we finished playing cards.. i told him "i really care about you and dont wanna get hurt" and he said "you wont get hurt we will have a little fun." well around 11:00 i called my dad and said i was still playing cards and debra my sister's friend would bring me home and i was taking my sister her car. well i took my sister her car and tommy said he would talk me home. and so debra agreed not to tell anyone. so on the way home i gave tommy a blowjob, i like 20 miles from where we were playing cards and he pulled over before we got to me house, not knowing my dad works nights and so does my sister. and we both promised not to tell anyone. and i told my friend that i hung out with him that night and evidently she got jealous and told him i was telling everyone that i was fucking the infamous playboy tommy wayne... so he is pissed and wont talk to me.. and i tried to tell him that i didn't care about him and yeah i liked being his friend but if he wants to treat me like shit we will see how he likes it when i treat him like shit. so i have been ignoring him.. and i will continue to.. but FWB CAN RUIN FRIENDSHIPS...

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Post by Anna_Banana » Tue Sep 20, 2005 5:47 am

FWB CAN RUIN FRIENDSHIPS...


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Post by Jess128 » Tue Sep 20, 2005 7:23 pm

When my boyfriend of a year broke up with me it was awesful, but once I was over it we became friends with benefits cause we both missed the sex. It worked out really well for a while until i started to fall for him again.... so i ended it for good. I had another FWB with summer and neither of us had feelings for each other but the sex was awesome. I think it's great if you dont fall for the guy, cause chances are he wont fall for you... haha.
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Post by Beautiful » Tue Sep 20, 2005 11:35 pm

Honestly, ( I know this is gonna sound HORIBBLY slutty ) I like it. You just gotta disconnect your emotions from it. Erm.. I've had one before. It was...amussing.
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Post by Anna_Banana » Wed Sep 21, 2005 1:00 am

yes, as Jamie said...if you can dissconnect your emotions, and just base everything on sex then you should be good, and the sex will be great...lol...but once emotions become involved its best to end it. and Jamie, sweetheart, that doesn't sound slutty...in certain ways i like it also.
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Post by Glitter » Wed Sep 21, 2005 11:28 pm

Ok well I had one, but what started as him being my best friend and us messing around, turned into him using me for not only sex but money and other things as well. And since then I'd been emotionally distraught and pratically selling my body but not for money. So last night my new friend and I were messing around and he stopped and we realized what we were doing and he totally said stuff that made me feel like a person, and not just a piece of ass and it meant so much to me because I really haven't felt as though I've been viewed as a person so it was great and I'm done with the FWB part of my life for now.
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Post by Beautiful » Wed Sep 21, 2005 11:33 pm

Originally posted by Kittie@Sep 21 2005, 12:00 AM

yes, as Jamie said...if you can dissconnect your emotions, and just base everything on sex then you should be good, and the sex will be great...lol...but once emotions become involved its best to end it. and Jamie, sweetheart, that doesn't sound slutty...in certain ways i like it also.

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Post by FranklinF » Thu Sep 22, 2005 12:37 pm

hmm i used to have a FWB it was fun for a while but it got old and i moved when i moved back we dated for a while that too got old for me, i would be way more into it if it had been with someone else-MARY
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Post by Anna_Banana » Thu Sep 22, 2005 1:10 pm

hmm i used to have a FWB it was fun for a while but it got old and i moved when i moved back we dated for a while that too got old for me, i would be way more into it if it had been with someone else-MARY


sex with one person does start getting boring after awhile...and how people say "test it before you buy it" that kinda ruins it if you break it while testing...if you get what im saying.
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Post by XTorn2PiecesLPX » Sat Sep 24, 2005 1:18 am

Originally posted by Anna_Banana@Sep 22 2005, 11:10 AM

sex with one person does start getting boring after awhile...and how people say "test it before you buy it" that kinda ruins it if you break it while testing...if you get what im saying.[/color]

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Post by Anna_Banana » Sat Sep 24, 2005 1:23 am

lol Molly....did that statement sound a little whore-ish? lol...that's just the way it came out..oh well.
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Post by XTorn2PiecesLPX » Sat Sep 24, 2005 1:44 am

Not like OMG YOUR A WHORE!!!! statement....but it coulda been a lil less whore-ish haha but its ok, i still love you

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