Should I Mess With Him?
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Should I Mess With Him?
I have no idea what do to. I really like him alot. and we've done ALOT of stuff together. we almost has sex Monday night, but cuz i'm still a virgin, i kinda didn't let him, LoL its hard to explain, but cuz his girlfriend was in the back of my head i just wasnt feelin it, ya know? and I spent the night at his house saturday night, we messed around, but not really really far, kinda get me? but it was just nice being next to him. And he says he likes me, but for some reason he's still with his girlfriend, even though all I hear about her is that she runs the cell phone bill, lies, goes hangs out with other guys, just really all negative stuff about her from him. And i don't know, I know its wrong to do nething with him cuz he has a girlfriend, but he starts it up. And i don't know, i just really really like him. Grrr what should i do?
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wait until he ends it with his current girlfriend. even tho he bad talks her and complains about her doesnt mean he still doesnt love her enough to stay with her. evidently not enough to stay just with her tho. i think you should back off before this becomes your problem or considered your fault if something happens wrong between them.your in a risky situation. i have been involved with married men and the out come is never good. so just put a stop to it on your part with "messing" around with him before it goes any further
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Originally posted by Amn_du_mort@Apr 1 2003, 10:10 AM
how would you feel if the guy you were dating was foolin around with someone else?....
stop for now until he ends it with his current g/f
but even then he shouldnt be trusted... if he was willing to fool around on one, what makes you think he wont fool around on you?
I totally get you on that. That's what I told him before we even kissed for the first time. And the first time we messed around when I was going home he called up saying that we just need to be friends, and that we shouldn't do that again. Which I totally agreed, cuz like you said, I wouldn't want to be his girlfriend, and him cheating on me. But the next time I came over (Wednesday morning) he started it up, and I was telling him that it's immoral, but he didn't listen, and I didn't really stop him either. But it gets me so mad cuz when i'm upset over there, he always says that its nothing to be upset about, there's nothing between us, but then he goes off and says that he wants me, and that he likes talking to me, and blahblahblah, but i'm totally getting you on that. But yesterday before I wrote this topic i went over there again, and we talked about alot of stuff, and right now we decided that nothing is going to happen between us, expect just being friends. but he said that last time, but oh well, right now we're just friends.
but thanks so much guys for replying! it means alot to me, and it makes the picture a little more clearer for me to see. thanks again
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DONT do it! its so morally wrong! for me, it broke up my family..and so i feel strongly about not messing around with someone who already has a girlfriend. seriously. DONT. just tell him that you really like him, and love messing around with him, but tell him that you are going to stop and hold back until he breaks up with his GF. <~ did you see that? he has a GIRLFRIEND! please dont do it... :'(
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Yeah personally I don't think you should carry on even if HE says he likes you. I mean how do you know he isn't telling his Girlfriend the same thing and doing the same stuff with her? Then he'd just be using you...not meaning to be pessimistic but I've gotten involved with a taken guy and trust me you're in for a rocky ride if his bird DOES find out. Plus the guy who I had been seeing had said that I had led HIM on...which was so totally wrong...then I ended up getting into a fight and yeah basically it wasn't pretty.
But yeah like I mean this guy COULD be using you for sexual stuff...because he obviously likes his girlfriend otherwise he would have broken up with her and have gotten with you. Plus he is a cheating toe-rag (no offense) I mean he HAS cheated on HIS girlfriend, who's to say he wouldn't do the same thing if you got with him????
Imagine you WAS his girlfriend and he cheated on you, would you like it? I guess not...So I think it IS morally wrong to do that and cause that amount of pain for someone else. Yes you may really really like him and everything but basically it isn't really nice for his bird.... But yeah basically it is up to you. I personally WOULDN'T!!!
But yeah like I mean this guy COULD be using you for sexual stuff...because he obviously likes his girlfriend otherwise he would have broken up with her and have gotten with you. Plus he is a cheating toe-rag (no offense) I mean he HAS cheated on HIS girlfriend, who's to say he wouldn't do the same thing if you got with him????
Imagine you WAS his girlfriend and he cheated on you, would you like it? I guess not...So I think it IS morally wrong to do that and cause that amount of pain for someone else. Yes you may really really like him and everything but basically it isn't really nice for his bird.... But yeah basically it is up to you. I personally WOULDN'T!!!
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yeah i totally get you guys. I was saying it was immoral of me to do that. I kept telling myself that too, I don't really know why i kept on. I guess its just i don't know, there's no accuses for it, so I did what i did. And i tell him that all the time (i tell him that if i was his girlfriend i wouldn't want him doing stuff to another girl) and yeah i get what you guys are saying, and I know its not fair to her, which i know, i just still don't know why i kept letting myself do that stuff. And yeah i do feel used by him. Yeah i get ya, LoL, sorry i'm saying yeah alot, but you guys are right, *sigh* i'm just stupid, lol, yep yep yep, well thanks so much!!!! and i really understand what you guys are saying. yep yep, thanks again!!!!!!
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~ Tell me all your problems & I'll try my best to kiss them all away ~
Now here you go again, you say you want your freedom
Well who am I to keep you down
It's only right that you should play the way you feel it
But listen carefully to the sound
Of your loneliness
Like a heartbeat drives you mad
In the stillness of remembering what you had
And what you lost
Well It's only me that wants to wrap around your dreams
I love you...
Now here you go again, you say you want your freedom
Well who am I to keep you down
It's only right that you should play the way you feel it
But listen carefully to the sound
Of your loneliness
Like a heartbeat drives you mad
In the stillness of remembering what you had
And what you lost
Well It's only me that wants to wrap around your dreams
I love you...
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Dont lose it to this guy, If he will cheat on his g/f for you then we will cheat on you with someone else.. Not the way to go. Keep waiting untill your sure
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well this isnt the right thing to do lol but i would just keep dping stuff with him...its definetaly the wrong thing to do..sorry i shouldnt of even said anything cuz i dont wanna influence you! oh no! lol ok yea...dont do it its wrong
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*points up* LoL, you make me laugh
thanks CK88, that really really means alot. I was talking to him last night on the phone, and he just kept saying that we're just friends and crap. and that he has a girlfriend, and i was so upset. I told him that he had a girlfriend last week and that didn't stop him. and he still doesn't get how he's used me. which i mean honestly, he'll do stuff with me when his girl is in Flordia, but when she comes back, he's like we shouldn't do this. its when shes not there to do the stuff he wants to do, is when he goes out and gets a girl. grrrr, but i do blame myself in a way. I knew he had a girl, he's also my manager, ha, which is really not allowed for manager and crew to have nething. and i went to his house. I mean i put myself in this situation. so of course i'm going to feel stupid, LoL, but yeah i have learned my lesson. thanks so much again you guys!! it means so much
Love always!!!!
Danielle
thanks CK88, that really really means alot. I was talking to him last night on the phone, and he just kept saying that we're just friends and crap. and that he has a girlfriend, and i was so upset. I told him that he had a girlfriend last week and that didn't stop him. and he still doesn't get how he's used me. which i mean honestly, he'll do stuff with me when his girl is in Flordia, but when she comes back, he's like we shouldn't do this. its when shes not there to do the stuff he wants to do, is when he goes out and gets a girl. grrrr, but i do blame myself in a way. I knew he had a girl, he's also my manager, ha, which is really not allowed for manager and crew to have nething. and i went to his house. I mean i put myself in this situation. so of course i'm going to feel stupid, LoL, but yeah i have learned my lesson. thanks so much again you guys!! it means so much
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Danielle
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I swear i'm the most dumbest person in the world. I went over to the guys house today. to play cards! okay i was just going to play cards cuz he's been feeling really bad. (he doesn't really know whats wrong with him, he went to the hospital today to find out) and we were playing cards, and he just started kissing me, i mean it was like forcefully or nething, but really gentle. and after that he goes to take a shower, and i'm looking in his room, and theres a pic of his girl. i pick it up and look on the back, and it's her handwriting saying her name, grade, year, all that good stuff, and it says I love you sweetie. grrrrrrr i felt so trashy! i've been feelin it already, but that made it worse, so i put that pic on his bed, and a playin card (you'll just have to see it to understand it, LOL) but i got myself and just left, didn't say a thing or nething. i went to my church and just talked to God or whoever was listening. i don't understand ne of this stuff. i don't know why i keep on, i don't know, well see i told you guys that i'm stupid. :'(
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yeah i think he's using me to, but in a way it doesn't seem like that. he says he likes talking to me, which i believe him when he says that. he was telling me yesterday that he didn't mean for what happened saturday. but oh well, i doubt it'll happen again.
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Originally posted by Shy@Apr 8 2003, 03:25 AM
My q'stion is... how old is this guy?
The other thing... he's just using u to get pleasure for himself. He doesn't care about u, and he sees that ur very weak and u'll end up letting him do w/e so he's using that and taking it to his advantage. My roommate did that to this girl, who i'm friends w/, and it took her a while to realize it. He said all the right things that she wanted to hear so he could keep having sex w/ her. I just hope it won't happen to u.
~~Shy
Hey thanks,
Ummm well tomorrow is his birthday, he'll be 20. Turns out that he and his girl got into a fight, and she told him that they weren't even together these past few weeks. which for is good, cuz now i don't feel that bad, but i still feel bad, but he actually seems to care a little. He's also kinda jealous, i told him that a guy kissed me last sunday, and he was like, well i want you to meet other guys, but i don't. lol, i don't know, but at first i thought he was just using me, but i mean i knew it, but i still came over there. i don't know, i'm just stupid that way. but things are better i guess. thanks for the support take care!
Danielle
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I messed with this guy for 5 months behind his gurlfriends back. She never found out, but everyone knew. His friends, my friends. I went over there all the time and so did she, but we never got caught. And she was one of my friends.
I also messed with one of my bestfreinds boyfriend behind her back, but i really didn't like her and he didn't either. so i wasnt worried abuot that
then another one of my friends' boyfriend tried to do it to me, and healmost would have if i didn't say "No" because that was my best friend and i couldnt do that to her.
so do whatever you feel is right
I also messed with one of my bestfreinds boyfriend behind her back, but i really didn't like her and he didn't either. so i wasnt worried abuot that
then another one of my friends' boyfriend tried to do it to me, and healmost would have if i didn't say "No" because that was my best friend and i couldnt do that to her.
so do whatever you feel is right
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