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Post by silent3screams7 » Thu May 10, 2007 11:31 pm

So I use to be pregnant. Had a miscarrige. Well the date the baby would of been due is coming up. And I thought I was over the fact that I lost it but all of a sudden it just hit me that I would of been a mom soon. I don't know how to handle it.

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Post by SirPostAlot » Fri May 11, 2007 9:29 am

hmm *hug* sorry about your loss - i know painful it is (my mom had a still born and even today (20 years after the fact) still gets a little teary eyed when April comes around . . .



Just know that there is always the future to have children...

*i will edit this part before i write it*

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Hmm...but just note there is always the future to have children :)



But i know how emotional some people can be about this issue, its very sad (especially if you really desired the fetus to be born)...



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Post by Kit » Sun May 13, 2007 12:02 am

fortuneately, my time to take on that particular feeling hasn't come yet. I can't imagine what it's like but I know it's hard. But, like Jeff said - there is always another time in your future to have kids...though that doesn't change the fact that it happened. Stay strong. You can do it.
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Post by FranklinF » Mon May 14, 2007 12:15 am

loosing a child is hard, no matter if it was a planned or unplanned pregnancy, i would suggest getting into counseling, beit a group meeting (they may have info at a local hospital or community center) or a one on one therapist. im sorry you had to expeirience such a thing, but talking about it can help. you can pm me if you like, i can send you some info about an online group if you are interested. and though i dont know exactly how you feel, i will talk to you about it if you like.
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Post by silent3screams7 » Thu May 17, 2007 6:42 pm

it hurts so bad seeing people with babys. i cant help but sit there and think that could of been me. my boyfriend (who was the father of the baby) gets upset with me because I blame myself. he keeps telling me its not my fault but i cant help but feel that way feel that maybe if i would of done something different not have pushed so hard i would still have my baby and be having it soon.

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Post by FranklinF » Fri May 18, 2007 10:03 am

usually there is nothing the mother did that causes the miscarriage, i understand it is hard, have you talked to your mom about this?
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Post by silent3screams7 » Fri May 18, 2007 1:20 pm

me and my mom don't talk. havent talked to her in i dont know how long

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Post by FranklinF » Fri May 18, 2007 5:22 pm

how about a counsoler, or try calling these numbers SHARE 1-314-947-6164 (They will send a free packet of information and list

Support groups in your area)

RESOLVE 1-617-643-2424 (For counseling services and referrals)
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Post by silent3screams7 » Sat May 19, 2007 12:09 am

thanks ill try that

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