When Is Enough Enough?
Posted: Tue Jul 24, 2012 9:41 am
Hi,
I'm a first time user of this forum.. i guess I was searching for others that could relate to me, because right now i feel more alone than ever.
From the outset it looks like I have a perfect life, I have a great boyfriend, friends and from appearance it looks like I have a great family, but no one knows what its like to be on the inside.
I'm the oldest of two girls, my younger sister is 14, I'm 18.
As she's grown older, I feel like I'm drifting further away from my family then ever, Since I'm always working to pay off university fees, I never get to interact with my family on the whole, its always them three together and I'm always left out
My parents always praise my sister, teling her shes beautiful, how skinny she is, how she could be a model. They always regard her in the highest way, and me, i get nothing but put downs.
"Why can't you be more like your sister, your sister never has to be asked to do chores she just does them"
Its not just that, my parents just don't understand how hard my life is sometimes. I deal with the stress of trying to make them proud, trying to get great grades, trying to keep them happy, work part time, have time for my boyfriend and friends.
If I do the slightest bit wrong my mother completely loses it at me, and then gets my dad involved, and lets just say he isn't the best person in the world. He threatens to "hit me till i fly across the room" and threatens to take my car off me, which they gave me as a present, along with my laptop. I don't understand how thats fair, giving your child a present then threatening to take it off them. I don't feel apart of this family, ive tried speaking to my aunty about this, she just brushes me off and says im overreacting but no one knows what its like to be me. To sit here night upon night and just cry by myself.
Ive considered quitting university putting all my dreams behind just so i can work full time and raise enough money to rent a place with my boyfriend, just to escape this mess.
please someone help me <img src='http://www.helpingteens.org/groups/publ ... #>/sad.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt=':(' /> give me someone to talk to, im sick of feeling alone.
I'm a first time user of this forum.. i guess I was searching for others that could relate to me, because right now i feel more alone than ever.
From the outset it looks like I have a perfect life, I have a great boyfriend, friends and from appearance it looks like I have a great family, but no one knows what its like to be on the inside.
I'm the oldest of two girls, my younger sister is 14, I'm 18.
As she's grown older, I feel like I'm drifting further away from my family then ever, Since I'm always working to pay off university fees, I never get to interact with my family on the whole, its always them three together and I'm always left out
My parents always praise my sister, teling her shes beautiful, how skinny she is, how she could be a model. They always regard her in the highest way, and me, i get nothing but put downs.
"Why can't you be more like your sister, your sister never has to be asked to do chores she just does them"
Its not just that, my parents just don't understand how hard my life is sometimes. I deal with the stress of trying to make them proud, trying to get great grades, trying to keep them happy, work part time, have time for my boyfriend and friends.
If I do the slightest bit wrong my mother completely loses it at me, and then gets my dad involved, and lets just say he isn't the best person in the world. He threatens to "hit me till i fly across the room" and threatens to take my car off me, which they gave me as a present, along with my laptop. I don't understand how thats fair, giving your child a present then threatening to take it off them. I don't feel apart of this family, ive tried speaking to my aunty about this, she just brushes me off and says im overreacting but no one knows what its like to be me. To sit here night upon night and just cry by myself.
Ive considered quitting university putting all my dreams behind just so i can work full time and raise enough money to rent a place with my boyfriend, just to escape this mess.
please someone help me <img src='http://www.helpingteens.org/groups/publ ... #>/sad.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt=':(' /> give me someone to talk to, im sick of feeling alone.