Why are their no normal guys?
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- Barbies are Evil
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Why are their no normal guys?
I was thinking about it today, and I have ONE normal ex.......wait, two, if you count the one i've NEVER met........I'm so sick of attracting these weird guys, guys that make whole new AIM accounts, tell me they love me everyday, but won't tell me who they are, guys who create whole new identies for themselves and end up on my porch with their nine month pregant fiancee..........I just want a NORMAL relationship....and yes, I know in reality nothing is normal and stuff like that, but i'm frustrated.
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And I'm going to extremes
Tomorrow I will change
And today won't mean a thing
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I'm a goddess on my knees
When you hurt, when you suffer
I'm your angel undercover
I've been numb, I'm revived
Can't say I'm not alive
You know I wouldn't want it any other way
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Re: Why are their no normal guys?
Hi Barbies are Evil!!
I hope you're OK.
Whenever we start to see a pattern insofar as who it is we are attracting - we must then consider the very real possibility that the problem is ours. In other words - we must ask ourselves, "What am I doing? Why do I keep inviting 'weird people' into my life?"
I think it's quite possible that you're too NICE!! [Which I can relate to - when it come to making friends, etc.] I think both of us need to be far more suspicious of people and their motivations. I've been hurt so many times in my life that I've all but given up on the idea of ever having a friend again. But that's not good - so I'm 'working on it'. [Sheesh!! How many times have I said THAT in my life!!]
So... what do YOU think you're doing - or not doing - that gives the not-so-nice the feeling that you're someone they don't really have to be respectful of?
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I hope you're OK.
Whenever we start to see a pattern insofar as who it is we are attracting - we must then consider the very real possibility that the problem is ours. In other words - we must ask ourselves, "What am I doing? Why do I keep inviting 'weird people' into my life?"
I think it's quite possible that you're too NICE!! [Which I can relate to - when it come to making friends, etc.] I think both of us need to be far more suspicious of people and their motivations. I've been hurt so many times in my life that I've all but given up on the idea of ever having a friend again. But that's not good - so I'm 'working on it'. [Sheesh!! How many times have I said THAT in my life!!]
So... what do YOU think you're doing - or not doing - that gives the not-so-nice the feeling that you're someone they don't really have to be respectful of?
GREAT BIG HUG
Craig!!
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Re: Why are their no normal guys?
I'd be frustrated too! I attracted weird guys for a while too but ya know what? In time, I got Matt - I just had to raise my standards a bit. You can do it too.
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Re: Why are their no normal guys?
I don't think i'm too nice, I just think that I really WANT someone to love, and someone who will love me back, and when you want something that badly you might not allow yourself to get treated the way you know you should be treated, you know?
TJ[10:13 PM]: no not really..... it's all so.... like wow..... screw steps, you took a fuckin jet pack and strapped it on yourself and rocketed your way forward (thats my big bro)
And I'm going to extremes
Tomorrow I will change
And today won't mean a thing
I'm a bitch, I'm a tease
I'm a goddess on my knees
When you hurt, when you suffer
I'm your angel undercover
I've been numb, I'm revived
Can't say I'm not alive
You know I wouldn't want it any other way
Meredith Brooks-Bitch
And I'm going to extremes
Tomorrow I will change
And today won't mean a thing
I'm a bitch, I'm a tease
I'm a goddess on my knees
When you hurt, when you suffer
I'm your angel undercover
I've been numb, I'm revived
Can't say I'm not alive
You know I wouldn't want it any other way
Meredith Brooks-Bitch
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Re: Why are their no normal guys?
[quote name='Barbies are Evil;497449']I don't think i'm too nice, I just think that I really WANT someone to love, and someone who will love me back, and when you want something that badly you might not allow yourself to get treated the way you know you should be treated, you know?[/quote]
You nailed it. In my opinion, and experience, when you're looking for somebody to love that bad..you sometimes kinda bend your own rules just to get what you want...and in return..you soon tend to realize that what you ended up with was in fact not what you were originally looking for.
You just gotta remember what you're looking for and try not to change your mind unless its for a good reason
You nailed it. In my opinion, and experience, when you're looking for somebody to love that bad..you sometimes kinda bend your own rules just to get what you want...and in return..you soon tend to realize that what you ended up with was in fact not what you were originally looking for.
You just gotta remember what you're looking for and try not to change your mind unless its for a good reason
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Re: Why are their no normal guys?
[quote name='Barbies are Evil;497449]I don't think i'm too nice, I just think that I really WANT someone to love, and someone who will love me back, and when you want something that badly you might not allow yourself to get treated the way you know you should be treated, you know?[/B'][/quote]
Which will be perceived by others as you being 'too nice'. In other words - a bit of a 'door mat'.
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Craig!!
Which will be perceived by others as you being 'too nice'. In other words - a bit of a 'door mat'.
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Re: Why are their no normal guys?
Hi Barbies!!I don't think i'm too nice, I just think that I really WANT someone to love, and someone who will love me back, and when you want something that badly you might not allow yourself to get treated the way you know you should be treated, you know?
I guess you could say I too am 'too nice,' and doing that led to two very unfortunate relationships (one moreso that the other). Guy #1 was REALLY lazy/never wanted to take me out or treat me like a gf. I stayed w/ him because he had been my best guy friend for years and I liked him a lot. Guy #2 I met while on vacation, and I didn't even WANT to date him...it just turned out that way because I was too nice to say NO to him. He was creepy-stalkerish.
So I can't say I've had my share of weirdo's as you have, because I don't know them, but I have had relationships with guys who weren't really worth it in the end. On the plus side, there ARE normal guys out there, it's just a matter of finding the right candidates.
It sometimes helps not to be looking so hard to have a bf, IMO. Recently, I was not so eager to get a boyfriend so I judged my new date based on my own expectations, knowing that I can and should turn him down if he turned out fishy.
While you are looking, network with your friends Sometimes, those friends also have other people they hang out with that you don't know about. And if they're your friends' friends, it's likely (I hope) that they're good company/good people, not weirdos.
Good Luck!
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