I dont know what to do...

[Britterz]

My boyfriend and i have been together for a year and a half. I love him

with everything i have. I would do anything for him and im IN love with him but i KNOW that its not gonna go anywhere bc he's not really into making it go anywhere. He has commitment issues.





So everythings great right now. Except for the fact that he smokes wayyyyyto much weed and he is always hanging out with his friends and always smokin. When im there...its all about his friends.





SO here's the thing...i like this other guy that i had a thing with a

couple of months ago when me and my bf took a break. We have so much in common and we love to go out and have fun. Not just sit at home and smoke weed. But i have such a bond with my bf that i dont wanna loose but dont get me wrong....he can be a real asshole sometimes. Well, i was

thinking...





should i take a break from my bf and try out this new guy??? i mean...im soconfussed. I get butterflies when i see my crush and i get all gitty when he messeges me on myspace and damn...i havent felt this way in a long ass

time.





i really like my crush. But all he wants is friends with benefits but kinda

more. But not bf and gf...which im cool with bc i wont wanna jump into a

relationship just yet.





please help me. it seems like im falling in and out of love with my

boyfriend. and i hate this feeling....



everytime im with my bf im head over heels for him but when im away from him...i always think about is this other guy...



CAN YOU PLEASE GIVE ME SOME ADVICE!!?!??!?!!?

[Beautiful]

Stay with your boyfriend.

It happens to every relationship when stuff starts to calm down. Just go out with him more. And TALK to him. Talking always helps no matter what. If he can't talk to you about it, then it could be time for a break.

[Britterz]

yeah i think im just going to ride it out through to holidayz and see how it goes. And by a couple months and i still feel like this...then ill break up with him...



my crush will still be around.

he's always been single and he will prolly forever be single until im single. lol.



thanks for your advice



but i dont see how this is normal.

[Nikki]

How do you imagine yourself and your bf in 3 years from now? Do you want this relationship to progress? From what you said it does sound so, but does your bf want it too?



I say, nothing obliges you to stay with your bf, you're young and free. besides, you should "try out" a few guys before settling down.

[Britterz]

yes i can imagine myself with him 3 yrs from now...

god i love him sooo much. its crazy.



im just scared that im going to get hurt. and thats really why i wanted to end it bc i didnt know what he tought about our relationship.



but tonight i really found out the truth when he gave me a promise ring for christmas.

now i know he plans on getting pretty serious with me and that he thinks we will last longer.



i regret thinking of breaking up with him

but i just didnt know where he stood on our relationship.



but now i know....

=))

[Nikki]

well, glad it's clear now Merry Xmas!

[Britterz]

something else happened tonight...

i was sooooo stoned that i met up with my crush and god i regret it.

all i wanted to do is talk.



he pushed himself on me soooo much.

i kept saying no and to chill out.



he just kept going.

he's sooo huge that my pushes didnt even make him budge.



i was shaking and begging him to stop and finally i got loose and pulled away from him....then he freakin picks me up and slams me on top of the hood of his truck. i was so scared that i was going to cave in.



did i cheat on him?



i didnt want what was happening.

i really didnt.



but he was all grinding on me...i tried to stop it.



was that cheating?

[Lena]

No, its not cheating. He forced it on you (which is wrong, its sexual assault) and you didn't want it to happen. Thats not cheating at all.

[Britterz]

i feel sooo icky....i was with my bf tonight and i started to cry bc i couldnt believe that had happened.

ive been feeling like it was cheating.



bc he said if i kissed him he would stop. so i kissed him.

and thats when he let me go finally.



should i tell my bf?

bc i feel like dumping him bc of what happened.

and he just bought me a ring.

so it would hit him kinda hard....



and tonight my bf told me

"happy new year baby....hopefully ill have another wonderful year with you."



god i started to cry.

i couldnt help it.



i feel sooo guilty...

[Nikki]

You should forget it, you did nothing wrong, and telling your bf about it will only make him sad, so why do it?

[Britterz]

Thanks for your help.

i decided not to tell him and just see how our relationship goes.

i mean thats a friend of his....and i really liked him.



im not going to tell my bf bc i want to protect his friend.

bc honestly i still have feelings for him.



im so confussed.



i love my boyfriend but this guy has got me going crazy.



well thank you for all of your help.

its helped out ALOT!



i dont think i should tell my bf bc it'll just cause more drama.



thanks again,



-Brittany